Can you ever really know what is going on inside someone’s head or mind?
Can you ever really help them?
Being transparent if you are able, is maybe for some the first step towards recovery and we have to believe that recovery is possible because it is!
I am in touch with a person who is chronically depressed, this is a subject often hidden and dealt with behind closed doors. I am always actively searching for information of how to ‘be’ in this situation. Everyone wants to give advise but how should we really behave towards a depressive?
In Euston today I saw a book “Reasons to stay alive” I bought it for this person and quickly read it on my journey home – it will hopefully help them and also help me to know how to ‘be’.
- Know you are needed, and appreciated even if it seems you are not
- Never say “pull yourself together” or “cheer up” (tough love doesn’t work) turns out just good old ‘love’ is enough
- Appreciate that this is an illness.
- Things will be said that aren’t meant.
- Educate yourself, understand, above all, that what might seem easy to you, going to the shop, for instance might be an impossible challenge for a depressive.
- Don’t take anything personal
- Be patient
- Meet them where they are
- Relieve any work/life pressure
- Three days in bed – no biggie – there is no standard normal
Where do we start? or should I say ‘they start’ this is ‘their struggle their journey’ but like Molly’s journey we are all intertwined and wether it’s a friend or family member we should take notice of the advice above, it may help…..I have certainly learnt something.
The most common lie “I’m fine”
Luv C x
It may be raining this morning but I see only blue skies, getting the keys to the house on Monday is a huge milestone and the realisation of how human kindness can change your world. Let’s face facts where would Molly be heading without the investors? A matter I can no longer afford to dwell on but one that should be considered, what is happening for others who are waiting for their forever home?
I have been in formed that a local Estate Agent has been asking about the new house ” is it for ‘ bad boys’? Firstly they need to get their facts straight and secondly if it were for the so-called bad boys” where is their Compassion, Support, Respect and Tolerance? Are they discriminating – yes they are. It disappoints me to think that a business in this city could be so small-minded. I do not know who these comments relate to and I don’t want to but let’s not be a small minded city and embrace our differences and support one another.
Nehamiah didn’t build the wall of Jerusalem by himself he had a team. Team Mollywood will continue to make a difference and drive out discrimination and embrace equality and respect which everyone of us deserves! We will continue even after the wall is built!
This week I witnessed equal opportunities and beautiful support first hand while on a visit to Carlisle People First. Great things are happening, just look around and see. Let’s educate the small minded people change their mindset and increase their lack of knowledge and understanding ‘together we are stronger’
Let the blue skies continue and in the mean time put on your wellies pop up you umbrella and keep on keeping on…
Have a great weekend!
This time last year looking after Molly was becoming so increasingly difficult, I have revisited the communication book (diary) tonight and it wasn’t nice to read and remember the onset of the mania and even more upsetting to acknowledge how we were living at that time with little or no support. No wonder I have this fight in me if only to prevent this happening again to Molly who is definitely my ‘WHY’ and the reason I can keep on keeping on……
So close but so far away, the investors exchanged on the house yesterday (4th October 2018) and we will complete on the 15th which is the day the work/alterations will commence. Big shout out to ‘Croft Construction’ in Carlisle who will support this project – so happy they are joining team Mollywood!
Scary but the best way forward for us all. Two lovely girls to share a beautiful home – praying they have a beautiful life there. I know there will be a settling in period and that it won’t be all plain sailing but hey, who knows it may be the best thing ever for everyone!
Well it’s the weekend and I am exhausted so going to rest up before a week full of more meetings:
- Section tribunal
- Expert by experience
Have a good one people!
Luv C x
Today my face is aching from smiling – we have a date for getting the keys to the supported living house and today I have appointed a company to commence the work. I can’t quite believe this happening.
So when ASC said “you find the social housing landlord, you find the other tenants, you appoint a provider or care”, I can say “all of the above has been accomplished” it’s over to you…..let’s get the funding approved please!
I will never take anything for granted, past experiences tell me we haven’t reached the top of the mountain yet but for now I will enjoy this face ache.
Short but sweet – celebrating but keeping on keeping on………
Luv C x